Trust Yourself

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Do you trust yourself? Trust the decisions you make will lead you in the direction you need to be led? Trust your voice, your feelings?

For a long time I did not trust myself, not entirely. Not in a way that is full. For a long time I suppressed so much.  And so my instinct was buried. In fact, burying it became an action, a thing I actually did. I remember so many times feeling a way and telling myself to put it aside in the name someone else’s needs or interest or expectation or to not be seen. It’s kept me small.  

I bring this up here because I  have heard so many women feel this same way. That we don’t trust ourselves.

We think things through way too much -  that unending thinking them through  is second guessing what we know is true. Not trusting ourselves.

I realized the other day I have only used my voice to say nice things. Even when I feel things that aren’t nice I delivered that feedback nicely.   Which means I said a lot of  yes when I felt no and a lot of no when I felt yes.

The gap here is I am a woman, we are women - complex and unfurling and spiritual and aligned with rhythms. We see so much more deeply than “nice” -we see intention and where pain is and where the magic lies. We understand and are capable of deeper exchanges and creating with deeper intention.

Trusting ourselves means leading. Leading in way that we navigate how and what we need. That we know what we see and feel have legitimacy. They are rooted in whats best for us and our families. 

So many women are starting businesses, collaborating in their communities and leading movements. My job is to be part of that collective voice, to encourage others by trusting in mine.

This leadership, I see women left and right stepping into it lately. Coming from the inside out.  So many women are taking the brave step forward to being themselves, doing it in their own way and creating structures that work for them, thereby nurturing and growing a new way of being. Trusting themselves.

For me this looks like arrival. I am going to keep talking this way. I am going to use my voice, without judgement because it aligns to who I am. And I am going to join and bring other women and girls long with me by leading by example and applauding their voices. This is brave, bold stuff. Its what we are made of. As we step into into our voice and trust it, we create.